Grief is difficult but necessary to process loss. Acknowledging loss honestly, being informed of others’ circumstances and the biblical grief process, and sensitivity to others’ losses can facilitate healthy grieving and the experience of God’s comfort.
An essential part of grieving well is engaging God honestly with our cries and complaints while submitting to his authority in our lives and opening ourselves to experience his comfort.
Feeling our pain rather than numbing it helps shift our perspective from ourselves to God, helps us be more honest with him and ourselves, and connects us to him as the giver of life.
Even though the hope of the gospel won’t remove pain and grief from the losses of life, realizing the limits of life and resting in God’s love allows us to process our losses and become bigger people through it.
Healthy grief begins with embracing reality and feeling the pain of loss, but it must also include giving up control and trusting the God who loves us and will provide hope and assurance in the midst of the pain when we let him.
Instead of grieving losses, the world typically addresses loss by avoiding the loss, blaming others and themselves, and controlling what they can. These tactics eventually lead to despair, but trust in God’s goodness and control can provide hope for the future and strength in the present.
Grieving is a necessity in a fallen world, but we should grieve for all of the right reasons. In three different instances Jesus shows us hindrances to good grief and then models how we ought to grieve.
Grief is a necessary process for all of us because loss is universal in a fallen world full of broken people. But God can make us better people by transforming us with the hope he offers in Jesus.