When we are unwilling to forgive others we replace God with ourselves as victims. But when we follow Jesus’ model, we acknowledge God’s authority in the offenses against us, find a path to forgiving others, and experience the restored life that God offers.
Grief is difficult but necessary to process loss. Acknowledging loss honestly, being informed of others’ circumstances and the biblical grief process, and sensitivity to others’ losses can facilitate healthy grieving and the experience of God’s comfort.
Feeling our pain rather than numbing it helps shift our perspective from ourselves to God, helps us be more honest with him and ourselves, and connects us to him as the giver of life.